Normalize Not Being Okay
Let’s normalize not being okay all the time or having it all together.
We all could use some sort of help or people in our corner who we can vent to and seek guidance.
Over the years, I’ve had a few responses tucked away that are automatic when someone asks me how I’m doing or how life is treating me. “I’m doing amazing” (my go-to). “Living the dream” (my sarcastic response). “I’m alive and well, blessed and highly favored” (my spiritual one). There were many in my pocket ready to go! Oftentimes, I’d felt the need to be the “strong friend” and completely disregarded what I’m feeling.
Eventually, I realized that sometimes I’m just not okay. Sometimes, I just don’t have it all together. And that’s totally fine. I may not be “doing amazing”, “living the dream” or feeling “highly favored” at all times. I may not want to be the strong friend through it all. Sometimes, I must admit that I need support, advice, and someone to help guide me back to a sound state.
Mental health is something that we, especially in the Black and Brown communities, have avoided addressing for far too long. I encourage you to be able to identify when you’re not okay and to never forget to offer your strong friends a place to be vulnerable, too. Don’t be afraid to reach out to a life coach, spiritual mentor, personal trainer, or psychologist. At some point in life, I’ve used them all, and it has been rewarding in more ways than one.
As Demario recently stated in an interview, “We are three-part beings. We have to take care of ourselves mentally, physically, and spiritually.” Honestly, I’ve been guilty of neglecting two of those frequently, but I eventually decided it was time to accept that I don’t have to be okay all the time or appear to have it all together. It freed me.
Are things not the best right now?
Can you use some accountability in your personal, career, and/or spiritual life? Do you just desire different perspectives to gain understanding in a certain area of your life? Here are a few reasons why seeking out a life coach or therapist is worth doing:
- You have goals you want to achieve but you first need to get out of whatever’s holding you back from achieving those things.
- You are caught up in the humdrum rhythm of everyday life and want to get out of your comfort zone and introduce yourself to something new.
- You are experiencing past hurts or trauma and you want to heal from them.
- You dream of having a meaningful, purposeful life but you’re not sure of the first step to take in that direction.
- Your relationship/marriage is going through a few issues and speaking to a professional could help you get through it.
- You know that you have a lot to feel grateful for but you need a little extra inspiration to piece your puzzle together.
Mental health is imperative. If you can use the extra help, don’t hesitate to get it.
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